As we move through life we re-invent ourselves – either in the image of others – or in the image of what we believe ourselves to be. This is a fluid dance of creating ourselves, forever changing but adopting a way of being that is comfortable for us over time.
What we explore and express as children, changes over time and experiences, however a lot of core understanding of the world remains with us even if we get questioned along the way. We allow new people to teach us, some institutions to condition us, however if we have at least one person to encourage and support us with things that we are drawn to, it is more likely that we will reach a state of comfortable self expression at a very young age. If we are questioned, and doubted, and perhaps judged from time to time, then we have almost what you could call a ‘confidence of faith in ourselves’
In the times of my grandparents – children were suppose to be seen and not heard – and were not given the opportunity to speak their mind. Compared to then, children are positively chatty *laughs* – and question everything if they are comfortable to do so. I do not know what I did in raising my children but each of them question most information as it is presented to them. That way they can determine what is right for them and what is not as they discover aspects of themselves as they develop and explore.
Most of the time in my time during my 0 – 20 years of age, I felt isolated even though I was surrounded by a lot of people. I felt very different to my friends, and I felt mildly outcasted from my family. Never quite sure where I fitted or belonged. As I became more acutely aware of my potential, I soon realized that these experiences helped me see that there is more to my story than what each chapter of my life to date attempted to show me. Just like there is more to Your story as you read this.
Once we become more comfortable within our skin then we are able to share how we feel externally by what we say, how we look, and what groups of people we find ourselves surrounded by. We feel more able to express our truest selves and not concern ourselves with how we are perceived by others – especially when we realize that people perceive things based on what is going on within their own space. Does this need to be something that only occurs over time or can we attain this state of comfort at energy? I believe it is the latter – we just have to ensure that our own self talk and the support of others around us remains true to our highest agreement.
If you do not feel that you do not currently have anyone supporting you – remember that when you start believing in yourself more then they will come if you would like that to be. Start with your Soul ‘people’ first if that makes it easier. Do not concern yourself with what they look or sound like or even what their name is. Just feel what you feel in your quiet space and try to believe in that smile that comes from it. Most smiles are Source generated – and you are going to think ‘ Umm Phoenix – huh?’ but a genuine smile generates amazing energy of various types…. it has to be Source based and is always very contagious. Embrace that experience if you can allow yourself too.
Phoenix Paton©
Reflect to Realise 